The Farm 13: Understand why Mussunzinho was macho with Erika Schneider

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The third week of A Fazenda 13 was especially marked by the clash of almost all the men with Erika Schneider. After she became a farmer, the boys got together, dissatisfied with her ways, and labeled her bossy and abused. Mussunzinho was one of the pawns who did this.

In addition to using pejorative adjectives, most of the pedestrians ignored Erika’s authority when she asked for a task to be done, especially domestic ones — something that didn’t happen to Gui Araujo at any point in his two weeks as a farmer.

Mussunzinho, however, did not accept Erika’s justification for placing him on the farm, as he did not identify any macho attitude in himself. Psychologist Laís Nicolodi, a member of the Feminist Collective of Women Behavior Analysts, explains to TV news that even if men are not aggressive and do not change their voice, they can still have sexist attitudes.

“Is she screaming and pointing her finger in someone’s face, or is she just being assertive? Women, when they are assertive, are punished. And men in the same position, emitting the same behavior, are hardly called bossy or abused,” says the psychologist.

Therefore, when Erika said that she found herself cornered and did not feel heard as a woman, she did not invent that she was a victim of machismo, as suggested by Mussunzinho and other inmates. Angry with the “accusation” of the dancer, who didn’t even use the word machismo, the actor showed an even more controversial behavior by demanding an apology.

The denial of Mussum’s son (1941-1994), even in the face of Erika’s arguments, shows that he invalidated her pain as a woman rather than trying to understand that he himself could have failed. “Men can understand that the word ‘sexist’ is synonymous with a man who hits a woman, but machismo is not just that,” says Laís.

“He was not willing to reflect with a little more hospitality about his behaviors that hurt the woman and defended himself against an accusation that he found unjust”, says the therapist, about the possibility that Mussunzinho knows that he is not someone aggressive and therefore , if you consider someone free from sexist attitudes.

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Maintainrupting is a common practice in machismo. In trying to defend himself from the label he received from Erika, Mussunzinho was once again careless when dealing with a woman. Faustão’s former dancer called him to talk and listened carefully to everything he had to say. But in her turn to speak, she was interrupted several times.

“Maintenrupting is a silencing function. It’s one thing for him to counter the argument, it’s another thing to interrupt it in the middle of a word. He wasn’t putting himself in a listening position,” explains Laís. “It wasn’t a horizontal conversation, equal to equal. He was so worried about defending himself that he didn’t listen to her”, she evaluates.

“The only way to know how they felt is to ask. What we see is that there are two people trying to communicate an annoyance, at the same time they are trying to defend themselves. He interrupts her, he is much more concerned about not appearing sexist” , observes Laís.

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